Conflicted: NaBloPoMo Nov 2

By on 11-02-2013 in Featured, NaBloPoMo, The Blogging Thing

Conflicted: NaBloPoMo Nov 2

Daily Prompt: Conflicted

You’re in the middle of a terrible argument, and everyone turns to you to help resolve it. How do you respond? How do you react to conflict?

Thankfully I’m not often in the middle of terrible arguments. If I was, I would be the person turned to for help resolving it though. I’m the arbitrator of justice in our household without any doubt. Inside I don’t react well to conflict, especially of the minor and irritating conflict variety that my boys like to engage in.

Real conflict though? I’m actually pretty good at dealing with that. I’m good at weighing all the arguments put forth. I’m good at seeing both sides (or all sides, as there are so often more than simple two-sided arguments to consider) of a situation and trying to find middle ground. It’s why I still sometimes wish I could or had found a way to go to law school. I would have liked to end up a judge someday, because I think I’d be really good at using my judgment to find reasonable solutions. Of course, knowing what I know about law and disputes, reasonable doesn’t often work anyway. People want to win, more than they want resolution I think. It’s why our court system struggles. People let emotion rule instead of looking at all the possible scenarios, understanding that compromising is the best option and finding the results they can live with, instead of believing that somehow they will get a result a million percent in their favour and totally against the other’s person wishes.

The world works best when we find ways to work together, right? What works on a household level should be effective all the way up the chain so to speak. My husband and I do not agree on things all the time, but we don’t get to the terrible argument stage often because we know that we have to find solutions that work for both of us and for the kids. Sometimes there is no compromise, but how often is that truly the case?

The times when I struggle the most with being conflicted? The times I’m busy living too much in my own head. Inner conflict is a lot more of a struggle for me than mediating an argument or resolving a disagreement. But that is another whole blog post!



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